How to :: Focus on your Wellbeing with Nicole King

Sep 18, 2019 | How to

In this age of 'busy' the need to focus our wellbeing has never been so important. As mothers of five children under the age of 8 between us, running a business, a family and the everyday demands life brings can sometimes lead to overwhelm.

In recent years, both Sarah and I have taken up the practice of meditation, as a form of taking time out and giving ourselves a 're-boot', shall we say. I can't even begin to tell you how grateful we are for this practice, which has affected so many areas of our lives in such a positive way - creativity, reactivity, productivity, we could go on.

So, in the hope of inspiring our TVM community to take some self-care, however that may be, our lovely Intern Gemma Lyndon has chatted to one of our close friends, inspiring mum and meditation teacher at Nicole King Wellbeing, Nicole King.

x Marissa

Welcome Nicole! 

Your business, Nicole King Wellbeing aims to optimise students physical, mental and spiritual well being through mantra meditation which I think is SO important in this fast paced day and age. Can you tell us a little more about what you do?

Sure, I teach an effortless Mantra Meditation technique over a tailored 3-session course. I’ve created the accessible and relevant course for the everyday person, for the ‘busy’ mind and modern lifestyle. Once completed, the student is a self-sufficient meditator for life.

The course is low on spirituality and time commitment but rich in neuroscience and mind-body education. We can rewire the neural pathways (highways in our brain) that regulate our emotions, thoughts, and reactions.  We can reprogram our subconscious mind and consciously create new pathways that lead us to compassion, gratitude, and joy instead of frustration, low-self worth, anxiety and fear. How cool is that?

Meditation is a meta-skill that improves ALL areas of your life. It can be practiced anywhere at any time, by anyone.

Whilst teaching students from a beautiful studio in Mermaid Beach, my email and DM’s were being flooded with messages asking if I’d be open to teaching online? I resisted these requests for a long time. Typically learning mantra meditation has been taught in a very structured way; it costs this amount, is taught in-person over 3-4 days. 

But as we evolve in this digital age, teaching this simplified ancient practice needs to be modernised and available to anyone who has a desire to learn. Regardless if they’re restricted by circumstance (hello newborn mum), time zone or geography. 

After hearing the consistent call, I realised I wasn’t living or achieving my purpose - create a relevant and accessible meditation course and be of service, share this life-transforming skill with as many people as possible. I needed to pivot and break away from the mould (yes, be brave). 

This month (September), I launched the ‘Learn to Meditate’ experience online and it’s been incredible! I teach grateful mothers wearing PJ’s in the comfort of their own home, digital nomads and ambitious entrepreneurs from their city office. 

These disciplined and eager graduates are the testimony that you can learn and implement this technique anywhere at any time - happily and successfully. 

Completing a Bachelor of Communications, to studying Naturopathy to being a mum and now fastrack to owning your own wellbeing and meditation studio. Tell us a bit about your journey before creating Nicole King Wellbeing?

In 2003 I jumped on a plane for Bolivia immediately after graduating University with a Bachelor of Communication (Business). After returning from adventures in South America & Europe, I scored my first corporate job,‘Marketing Assistant’ with CSR Limited and immediately moved south to Melbourne. I continued progressing up the ‘ladder’, within various companies in Sydney and Melbourne and in 2007 relocated back to the Gold Coast and started a boutique PR firm, Ellipsis.

Fast forward 8yrs and another 2yr stint in Melbourne, my husband and I were welcoming our first child and I started studying Naturopathy. Pregnancy proved to be the perfect catalyst to take the plunge and finally follow my passion for health, wellbeing and helping others.  Up until this point I had been on auto-pilot mode, working in a career that I felt as though I ‘should’ be pursuing.

Everything organically evolved from here. I went onto study nutrition, counselling and meditation. For years I was a Holistic Health & Nutrition Guide for Mothers. During this time, it was evident many ‘nutritionally’ healthy women were in chronic activation of the fight-or-flight response. Unable to heal or emotionally cope with the ‘motherhood shift’ or the daily stressors of this busy world. Leaving them with feelings of stress, isolation and disconnection. I could relate because I was one of these women.

I’ve personally experienced first hand the profound mind-body connection (our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and attitudes can positively or negatively affect our biological functioning), which led me to create the 10 Essential Elements of Wellbeing. Once I started living aligned with the 10 Elements, I healed severe post-natal depletion, anxiety and reversed several autoimmune diseases (full story here).

My purpose from this point was loud and clear.  To serve others, share education and teach people how to tap into their authentic-self and true potential. After 3-sessions, students leave aware and conscious, having the ability to control their mind, rather than allowing their worry mind to control them. You’re able to perceive your mind, body and world and in a completely new and healthy way.

Nicole King Wellbing creates awareness and guides individuals to reconnect to themselves to enhance their clarity, healing, performance and health. How do you feel reconnecting with your wellness effects your creativity and productivity in a business and personal sense?

It enhances intuition and every aspect of work, rest and play.

Work - Strengthens clarity and confidence in decision making which improves creativity, productivity and results.

Rest - You’re able to recharge and rejuvenate in less time.

Play - You become very present, you find daily gratitude in the ordinary and feel grounded amidst the chaos. You’re there, feeling and experiencing the moment.

In today's world where we are surrounded by alarms, notifications and social media many people often get caught up in the online world. What advice would you give to people to centre and reconnect themselves to ensure they have a sense of positive wellbeing?

Three pieces of advice;

1) Come back to the present moment. Realise that you’re here, right now, at this moment. Time is the most precious thing we have. We often wander through each day with unmet expectations, replaying the same stories and conversations in our minds, we’re delaying our happiness. Question - “How are you investing your time and is it serving you”?

2) Figure out your values and align your life accordingly. Ensure your time and energy is invested in serving your health, wellbeing and values. If not, axe it. Whether it's a toxic environment, relationship, habit or lifestyle choice. Be very mindful of the content you invite into your world.

3) Thirdly, reconnect with nature and do more of what makes you happy! I ask this question often- “what brings you joy”?

Creativity and productivity are a centre-point of most businesses how important do you think it is to start the day with a clear positive mindset?

It’s imperative. It doesn’t have to be lengthy or complicated, but I do believe a morning ritual is key.

From the moment we open our eyes, we have around 3,000 possible thoughts per hour. The majority of these (~95%) are either spent rehashing the past or anticipating a hypothetical future. Which means our thoughts are unproductive and irrelevant to the present moment.

A 20min morning meditation practice clears space in your ‘busy’ mind, from this point of clarity you can create and focus which sets the tone for your day.

As a very busy wife, mum and business owner how do you stay mindful and centered?

Of course a daily meditation practice ;-).

I believe in a holistic approach and carve out time each day to spend mindful time with each of my daughters (individually), move and nourish my body and get into nature. Even if it’s only for 10 minutes, I have an ocean swim or barefoot walk.

I also have a beautiful nighttime routine which grounds me before falling asleep.

What part of your job would people find most surprising? 

Despite the misconception that learning to meditate can be difficult or is about ‘stopping thoughts’ it’s actually really simple and the life-changing benefits can be felt immediately.

It’s not sitting cross-legged chanting and requires no lifestyle changes (yes, you can still enjoy your vices whatever that may be for you).

Who would you like to have a 30-minute meeting with?

Dan Tehan  - Minister for Education. I’d love to discuss how we could roll out a national Mantra Meditation program across every Australian school. If the future generations had the practical skills to navigate life with 8 C’s of Self-Energy we could improve the world for posterity.

**8 C’s - Calmness, Clarity, Curiosity, Compassion, Confidence, Courage, Creativity and Connectedness. 

What do you feel when you are feeling uninspired?

I meditate and physically move to shift sluggish and uninspired energy.

This could look like dancing (often to my cringe-worthy fave music), swimming in the ocean, catching up with a friend, doing hot yoga or yin, or listening to a motivating podcast while walking along the beach.

Who do you love to follow on Instagram?

It’s an eclectic mix…that changes often, but for the moment:

Lalah Delia, Zoe Foster-Blake, Dani DiPirro (@positivelypresent), Jim Kwik, Dr Joe Dispenza, The Grace Tales, and of course, TVM!

What do you do to unwind?

Hang with my family and play with our daughters, catch-up with my incredible friends, go to the beach, head off on a road trip adventure, cook and read. I’m not a TV person but I am a confessed book nerd.

Who and what do you find most inspiring and influential in your life?

Who - Close friends and expanders who are taking a chance, carving their own path. Creating, despite challenges and fear whilst giving back and helping others along the way.

What - TRAVEL! Travel brings me so much joy. It inspires, rejuvenates and challenges me. At the moment we’re manifesting a family ‘gap’ year in Europe.

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Thanks so much for sharing Nicole!

x Gemma